“At the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you” 

For sure. 10 times out of 10.  I just have some questions beforehand: 

  1. What if I don’t know what’s best for me? 

I’m 21. I’m old enough to drink legally, but I don’t know a lot of things. I would make a list, but I limit these posts to one page, at size 12 font, and that list is much too long. 

2. If I decide to do it, will I know it’s best? 

If it feels better in the short-term, will I regret it in the future? 

3. What if what’s best for me isn’t best for other people? 

I never want to be the person who hurts anyone else; I guess you could say I’m hyperaware of that now.  

Truth: I’m scared to do what I think is best for me, but the proceeding empowerment makes it worth it. 

Have you ever seen those movies where the person sees something, and manages to convince themselves that they’re not thinking clearly until someone ends up dead? At that point, they realize that they did in fact see the monster or demon or crazy stalker woman—it happens all the time in the movies. That’s extreme, but I happen to love thriller films even though I’m the first one to yell or jump under the covers. There’s this little thing called intuition, and get this, we all have it; we dont, however, trust it enough. Intuition is a gift. Your instincts are a gift and who are we to deny our gifts? I mean c’mon. 

The key is not to mistake your thoughts for your intuition. Thinking and feeling are two fundamentally different things even though both are required to move through the world in a respectable manner. Thinking is not quick enough nor is it always a reflection of who we are and who we want to present to the world. Simply put,  when the hairs on the back of your neck stand up, there’s no time to think, trust the feeling and make a move. When you’ve tried to think your way through every possible circumstance and ended up damaging everything that meant anything to you, there’s no more time for thinking, so trust yourself and make a move. Then again, I only just became old enough to sit at a bar. 

Either way, I think the opening quote is meant to say “do what you feel is best for you”. Think about it, of course, but don’t think your way out of your gift, please. 

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